The goal of a child of God is to become the separate, unique, and whole person the Lord wants you to become, the vessel that will hold the Treasure, which is Jesus (2 Cor. 4:7). The goal of each of us, according to the Apostle Paul, is “to be conformed to the image” of Christ (Rom.8:29), who was the most unique, separate, and whole person who ever lived.
Whether you are aware of the goal, whether you are working toward it, or whether you are not, that still is the goal set before each of us.
We cannot rightly carry out the Great Commission (Mark 16:15-18) or be “perfected” to do the work of the ministry (Eph. 4:12) unless we have first achieved—or at least are working toward achieving—the goal of becoming a whole and unique child of God, conformed to the image of Christ.
Therefore, you should be striving to be single; however, if you have married on the way to this goal, do not stop seeking the goal. Marriage will simply show how “unsingle” you are.
Once I was in Germany at one of the largest rehabilitation centers (mental institutions) in Europe talking to the chief physician.
I said, “Do you know what is the problem of all of these people inhere?” He said, “Yes, we’ve studied that.”
I said, “No, let me give you my definition of their problem. If you knew the problem, you could have the answer of why this place stays so full of patients. The problem is that everyone is trying to find his or her person in someone else’s body. They are not ‘single.”
Women suffer more than men for the “myth of singleness.” Society, even with the prominence of the feminist movement today, tends to look down on, to set apart, women who are not married—especially those who have never married.
The thought seems to be that if a woman has never married, it is because no one ever wanted her, which makes her a “reject,” suspicious. There must be something wrong with her.
Many women and men are so busy looking for someone to be all things to them that they do not have time to be who they are. If you are too preoccupied looking for someone to be all things to you, you have no one and nothing to give them.
Then you have a major problem in the making, because no one can give you enough time or attention to make up for the emptiness where you are supposed to be full. And if you are empty of a real self, the other person will be unhappy because you have nothing to give back.
If you will become consumed with being who you are, God will have to interrupt you to bring you a companion, just as He did Adam. Adam was so busy naming the animals, taking dominion (rulership) over the earth, and carrying out the functions he was created to perform that he did not have time to know there was not another one like him.
He was so consumed with enjoying life in the Garden of Eden, in fulfilling his purpose, that he did not look around for anyone else. God had to interrupt Adam and put him to sleep in order to make another like him to present to him.
Adam did not know he needed someone. And when you get to the point that you do not need anyone else for your life to be whole, unique, and separate, then you will be ready for God to bring you someone. You will be ready to give up your aloneness in favor of togetherness with someone else who is separate, whole, and unique.
Your marriage will only be as successful as your singleness, because you can only bring to a marriage what you are as a person alone. Marriage is honorable in itself. It is what we bring into it that causes the trouble.
No human being can meet your ego needs.
No human being can meet your soul needs.
No human being can meet your spiritual needs.
You might as well settle all that with God. You are only fit, or ready, for marriage when you are totally fulfilled in God.
will Continue ..
Lots of love,
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